046: The Secrets to Lasting Marriage and Having the Love You Really Want with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, PhD

Apr 6, 2021

Love can be life-changing or it can be lackluster - it’s up to you to decide.

Here to help you have the love you really want is Dr. Alexandra Solomon. Dr. Solomon is a relationship therapist, teacher, author, and sought-after speaker who is passionate about translating research and clinical wisdom into practical tools that people can use to level up their relationships. In this episode, she brings so many tools to the table that are great for singles or couples to have in their back pocket.

Stay tuned as we discuss what relational self-awareness is and how to increase yours, how to have a deeper emotional connection with a male partner, and the art of pausing during conflict. Dr. Solomon also shares the keys to reigniting your sexual expression, four relationship killers, and when it’s time to walk away. 

Enjoy!

Episode Highlights: 

• 3:26 Dr. Solomon’s work at Northwestern and in her practice 
• 5:43 What relational self-awareness is
• 8:42 Discovering your own relational self-awareness rating
• 12:27 Dr. Solomon’s two books for your reading list
• 15:00 How to increase your relational self-awareness 
• 17:19 Why learning to pause and taking a sacred timeout can work wonders during conflict
• 20:07 The four horseman of a relationship apocalypse 
• 23:58 Why men are conditioned to have trouble communicating
• 27:24 How a female can support her male partner in emotional connection
• 29:40 Tips for a man to explore being more emotionally expressed
• 35:14 Why sex is an important part of a lasting partnership
• 40:44 How to reignite your sexual expression
• 47:40 When it’s time to leave a relationship
• 52:53 What integration means and how to know if you’re ready for a new relationship

Links and Resources: 

• Dr. Alexandra Solomon
• Loving Bravely
• Taking Sexy Back
• The Mankind Project
• Becoming Cliterate
• Podcast 017: How to Turn Relationship Conflict Into Connection with Annie Lalla
• Podcast 004: How to Have an Awesome Marriage with Adee and Michael Cazayoux
• Podcast 035: Have More Orgasms, Debunk Society’s Sex Myths, and Become Cliterate with Dr. Laurie Mintz

Guest Bio:

Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships. A professor, therapist, speaker, author, retreat leader, and media personality, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. Her work on relational self-awareness has reached millions of people around the world. 

Dr. Solomon is a faculty member in the School of Education and Social Policy (SESP) at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University.

In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want.

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